In an ideal world (as most girls would like to point out to you), the normal setup of a functioning relationship involves a guy (the boyfriend a.k.a ‘provider’), a girl (the girlfriend a.k.a ‘…….’) and emotions (or ‘feelings’ as it is better known). However, we now live in a world where people exchange nudes; the closet door is wide open and people are starting to think for themselves so consequentially, there has been modifications to the entire ‘ideal world’ setting. Now there is ‘zoning’ and ‘bestie’s’ and ‘friends with benefits’ and the remaining connotations. For the purpose of this article, the ‘side-chick’ spectacle will be examined.
Like I tried to explain above, it’s a new world with new trends and new mentalities so the conventional protocol when it comes to relationships has changed drastically and is more relative now more than ever. I know the entire ‘side-chick’ concept can make any girl nearly implode with negativity but let’s look at it objectively and without sentiment.
These days’ girls complain about various issues when it comes to their relationships. ‘He doesn’t give me as much attention’, ‘He isn’t romantic’, ‘Dating is too complicated’ et cetera. In short, most girls want all the attention, romance, sex, affection and the ‘presents/profit’ that might come with them without any of the tedium or compromises that come with having it that good. However, there are select few girls who would rather have that but in much smaller doses. Essentially, there are some girls whose requirements as per the male gender fit the side-chick bill perfectly. There are some big questions hovering over this setup though, like should any girl be a side-chick? Is it convenient? Does it work? Is it downgrading? Can any fulfillment be found in such an arrangement?
First of all, I don’t think being a side-chick is necessarily downgrading. Not if it’s a mutual agreement at least. I know someone is probably thinking ‘Why would anyone want to be a side-chick?’ well, believe it or not, not every girl wants to be the main chick. True story. Some aren’t ready to admit it, others call it different names. But the point is there are some girls who would rather be side-chicks than be in a full blown relationship. Besides, it’s convenient, you don’t have to suspect him, you don’t expect more than you get (i.e. No disappointments), you have more time to yourself (academics, work, pursuing a hobby etc) and the best part, freedom. Freedom to do as you please, freedom from emotional stress, freedom from jealousy (which is a very wasteful emotion, btw) etc. in fact, you don’t even have to go horny for long (yes, I said it!). To cut my sermon short, all I’m saying is that there are upsides to being a side-chick.
However, I’m not saying being a side-chick should be your next target (you’d be another kind of retarded to think that of course). Obviously, if you can’t have a relationship where emotions don’t lead the way, this isn’t for you. If you can’t do without the full attention of your partner, then this also isn’t for you. If you believe in romance and all the basic tenets of dating, this also isn’t for you. All I’m saying is that if the concept of being a side-chick works for you please go for it. Guys usually like the side-chick more eventually anyways so what’s the worst that could happen? Just because our society frowns at it doesn’t mean it isn’t functional or satisfying.
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